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PARK CITY — This may come as no surprise, but talking trumps texting when it comes to emotional well-being.
In this modern age we use our phones for everything. Whether it's texting, social media or online shopping, our constant state of looking down has many of us forgetting how important it is to look up.
“When you’re spending time communicating electronically, you’re missing out on those interpersonal relationships," said Kristi Miller, a licensed clinical social worker for Park City Medical Center.
These electronic conversations prohibit the development of recognizing nonverbal and visual cues, which is 90 percent of all communication. How?
“Things get lost in translation and you’re unable to know how somebody is really feeling, or often times it’s perceived in a negative way when that’s not the intention at all," Miller said.
Something as simple as an electronic apology lacks the feeling of pain, compassion and remorse. “Nothing really replaces just being able to give your friend a hug and cheer them up,” she said.
Excess texting can damage our personal relationships, even our self-esteem. “If somebody’s not responding than maybe somebody’s feelings are getting hurt, or you’re feeling like someone’s not caring about you because they’re not instantly responding," she said.
This perpetual need to be available day or night can also disrupt our sleep patterns. “Most of us sleep with our cellphones at arm’s reach, so it’s going off all night," Miller said. "The lights are waking you up; the sounds are waking you up.”
Having face-to-face conversations lowers stress levels, depression, anxiety and risk of cardiovascular disease. Make it a priority to turn off phones during meal times, homework time and bedtime, and do your best to be seen and heard by those closest to you.
“The best way to do this as adults is to show them by example and just really focus on forming those bonds with them and letting them know that they’re cared about and an important part of your life," she said. Jenniffer is a Special Projects Producer who heads up the Your Life Your Health, Zero Fatalities and High 5 initiatives. For questions, feedback or possible story ideas, please email jmichaelson@ksl.com.
