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Tonya Papanikolas Reporting Children's holiday wish lists are getting more and more expensive.
That can put a big strain on parents who are trying to decide where to draw the line on what they give.
A child psychologist, speaking on how much is too much, told us that there really is no black or white answer that fits everyone.
The psychologist told us each family needs to look at their own priorities and decide what is reasonable for them.
He emphasized parents should not feel guilty saying no, and at other times, saying yes.
There's no question about it--kids love opening presents on Christmas. But sometimes buying those gifts can get out of hand.
Sally Tarbet, mother: "You get the main gift and then you find all these little accessories to go with it."
These days, the items kids want are also getting more elaborate, including PlayStations, iPods and computers.
Heidi Swapp, mother: "And motorized stuff. They think they need dirt bikes."
"Andy Coy, father: "Harrison, the five-year-old, is asking for a Game Boy."
Douglas Goldsmith, child psychologist at The Children's Center: "They're very familiar with what they want, and parents are overwhelmed because these are very expensive gifts."
So when should parents grant the wish and when should they hold back? Psychologist Douglas Goldsmith says it depends on the child's age.
Dr. Goldsmith: "Kindergarten-age children don't need sophisticated gadgetry they're unable to take care of."
He also says it depends on the family's income. If the parents can afford an iPod the child will really use, there's no harm in giving it to him.
Heidi Swapp, Mother: "If it's something they'll like for a long time, then I think it's worth it."
But if those gifts will strain the family's finances, that needs to take priority.
Dr. Goldsmith: I think if parents can sit down and say to a child, we do have a limited budget, its okay to say that to the children."
He also advises parents to ask children if they want one big gift or more small gifts. And in the end, he says families should make Christmas traditions the focus of their holiday, instead of presents.
Dr. Goldsmith: "The children are less likely to remember the toy they got for Christmas and more likely to remember the family traditions."
Sally Tarbet, mother: "I think it needs to focus more on what we're thankful for." If you decide not to get your children what they're asking for, Goldsmith says it's best to let them know that beforehand, and ask them for some additional gift ideas.
