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Utah man kidnaps, threatens to kill woman who wouldn't marry him, police say

Utah man kidnaps, threatens to kill woman who wouldn't marry him, police say

(Spenser Heaps, Deseret News)

WEST JORDAN — A man who police say wouldn't take no for an answer regarding his marriage proposal was arrested over the weekend and accused of aggravated kidnapping.

Kolbe Lee James, 24, was also booked into the Salt Lake County Jail for investigation of assault, making a threat of violence and electronic communication harassment.

On Friday, James picked up his girlfriend to look at an apartment to rent. But after looking at the apartment, James "became angry with the victim due to the victim's lack of commitment toward marriage," according to a police booking affidavit.

James then began driving "aggressively" and told the woman that he would not allow her to leave his vehicle until she agreed to marry him, the affidavit states. Police say he then drove to the parking lot of an abandoned business in South Jordan and yelled at the woman.

When the woman again told James "she did not want to commit to marrying" him, James grabbed her wrists and threatened to kill her, according to the affidavit. The woman continued to plead with James to drive her back to her own car, but he allegedly told her he wouldn't until she "made the 'right decision."

James then drove to the Daybreak area and told the woman along the way that "if she returned to her family, (he) would 'become the agent of the devil' and would make (her) life a 'living hell,'" the affidavit says.

At one point, after James again threatened to kill the woman, she rolled down the window and yelled, "Help me," prompting James to pull her back into the vehicle by her hair and punch her in the head three times, police wrote in the affidavit.

In total, the woman told officers she was "held hostage" in the car for about six hours before being able to run from the vehicle. When the woman finally got to her own car, she drove straight to the West Jordan Police Department. While speaking with officers, James called the woman's phone "repeatedly," the affidavit states.

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