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Did you know that there is a Recommended Daily Allowance in your marriage? In my workshops and private coaching, I teach couples about the RDA of Relationships. I recommend a daily allowance of loving moments in your marriage. I call these moments loving rituals. Loving rituals are one of the most basic ways to constantly feed your relationship. When you feed your marriage you invest thought, time, and energy to replenish your love and deepen the connection between you.
A loving ritual has some key elements. It must be coordinated between the two of you by talking together and defining the ritual. You should both agree on and understand the expectations. The loving moments should engage both of you and be emotionally significant to each of you so that it deepens your sense of connection. Loving moments in your marriage should be predictable and practiced enough to be habitual. Above all, the Recommended Daily Allowance of loving moments should be sacred and held as top priority in your relationship. Schedules, friends, kids, even arguments, should not disrupt a habitual loving ritual.
A kiss before you leave the house is a great example of a ritual that provides a daily loving moment in your marriage. 20 minutes of talking time before bed is another way to daily connect to your spouse with a loving ritual. I encourage every couple to incorporate laughter into your loving rituals. Laughter brings a type of connection not found in any other way. Laughter is a way of sharing. It is sharing of a feeling, an event, and of life.
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