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Nothing is more complicated than having a marriage and making it work. The bottom line is, to make marriage work, we must have character. That is the very basis of any good relationship. We see the lack of character in the public and in our leaders. One of the big things I see in couples that come to my office is that they often do not want to take responsibility for their actions. It is wrong when they see it in others, yet feel that they are above reproach. I don't understand what is going on when someone hurts somebody, and then thinks it should just go away. Character is sticking to a decision long after the emotion of the task has passed. Just because we are tired or hungry doesn't mean we have to be a jerk. At some point we have to have character. Our character would say, "You hurt me and I am going to move on." Character is what brings us to our higher selves.