SALT LAKE CITY — Throughout our lives, we're given some good advice, but we're also given some really poor advice. Below is a list of the bad and how to change your thinking about them.

1.You can have it all in life.

No, you can't. Billions have tried. Zero have succeeded. Since there are a finite number of hours in the day, to accomplish one thing, you must forgo another.

You must pick and choose by prioritizing what's most important to you, rather than prescribing to the false idea that you should have everything a fictional and archetypal American should have. Life is a simple mathematical equation. One side must equal the other. You must balance it. Or reality will do it for you.

2.If something sounds too good to be true, you're probably just lucky.

I suspect this is the phrase gullible people tell themselves when hearing a sales pitch that sounds too good to be true.

So, if you find yourself believing in things that are sold with little to no downsides or risk, please remember that age-old wisdom is against your instincts.

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3.Staying busy will get you where you want to be

Not true; Formulating a plan and sticking to it will.

This is a truth I'm still trying to understand. And I'm lousy at planning. Uninspired, I perform menial and mundane tasks, all while telling myself: "It's better than nothing." It's not.

This leads to procrastination. It leads to dead ends. It smolders fire. It festers fear. Do not let this happen. If caught in this trap, take a break. Entertain every thought that comes to mind, including worst-case scenarios. Then wait for even the tiniest bit of inspiration to strike before returning to work.

Obviously, this isn't always possible. Sometimes things just need to be done. But the idea of "keep moving" is a short-term motive, never a long-term one.

Over extended periods of time, if you're only moving to be moving, you're directionless. So don't let mundane maneuvers blind you from seeing the big picture, the forest through the trees, and other cliches. Never mistake activity for achievement.

4.Working all day will get you ahead in life

No it won't. This includes everything from staying late at the office and failing to take nights and weekends off, to compulsive glances at a smartphone throughout the day and missed vacations. Granted, if your definition of "ahead" is solely based on money, then working all the time is a noble endeavor. Humans need so much more to find fulfillment and joy in life, so that thinking is short-sighted.

As for me, I tried this for five years out of college. It wasn't until I stopped believing this lie that I started making measurable gains in not only my professional life, but my personal life, including health, family, and new experiences. In fact, "I wish I hadn't worked so hard," is the second-most popular regret of dying people. Don't believe the hype.

5. Pursue a career that is a logical fit or status-enhancing

Wrong. That's a sure fire way to immense regret.

Instead, pursue something that excites you. If nothing excites you, identify things you don't like doing and work backward from there. And remember: "To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment." — Ralph Waldo Emerson

6.You'll be happy once you reach retirement.

I've said it before and I'll say it again: You don't have to put your time in to take time off.

Taking time off is healthy and important to not only your personal well being, but time off can even revitalize your professional efforts as well. It makes you hungry to return to work. It inspires you.

So rather than defer vacation and adventure to a time when your body is rapidly deteriorating, take regular vacations and mini-retirements throughout your career.

Of course, if you only identify with work, you probably won't want to do this. Different strokes for different folks. Just know that you don't have to live like that if you don't want to. You can and should be enjoying life right now, instead of deferring it.

7. The more you see and do in this world, the better

I sometimes prescribe to this myth. It fuels my curiosity and has taken me to some amazing places. The problem is that it also encourages an unsustainably fast lifestyle. A crammed lifestyle. When you wholeheartedly buy into this idea, you start cramming your day with unnecessary stuff.

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"I regret stopping to smell the roses," said no one ever. "Patience makes you miserable," said no one ever. Don't tell yourself the same.

8.Food is fuel

Let's call this a half-truth. When your energy is low or you're starved by poverty, this is accurate. But for developed nations with stable and plentiful access to meals, this leads to long-term poor health. Things like heart disease, sickness and abnormally high cancer rates.

When you believe this myth, you start eating boxed food, processed foods, and fast foods more than you should. You eat on the go, minimize meaning discussions around the dinner table, and form an uneven diet.

Admittedly, I'm just learning this now. But it has changed my life and perspective on food. I've never thought more about food than I do now. I look forward to each and every meal. When I used to view food solely as fuel, I formed bad diet habits. Now that I view food as an event — one that I actively try to participate in by cooking — I don't just have a diet, I love my diet.

9.I want to grow up

I'm amazed by how often we tell ourselves this. The seed is often planted when you're first told, "You're not old enough," or "You're not tall enough." It's later cemented when we tell ourselves, "You're not successful enough."

So what do we do? We tell ourselves we want to grow up, as fast as humanly possible. What happens next? We often find ourselves with jaded minds, unnecessary regret, and broken hearts.

Often times, this primal desire to grow up kills our curiosity and desire to learn. It keeps us from learning new tricks or trying new things. It strips of us innocence and encourages us to generalize, judge, and belittle others. It makes us old.

"Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at 20 or 80," said Henry Ford.

Obviously, adulthood is more rewarding than childhood. And maturity is a good thing. But it's significantly more so for the young at heart — leaps and bounds more.

10. Passing the buck brings happiness

False. Your happiness and well being is entirely your responsibility. You must take ownership of your own behavior and understand that some of the reasons everything happens is because we are stupid and make dumb mistakes.

So stop blaming others. Stop waiting for the world to change you. Be the change you wish the world to be. Easier said than done, yes. But doable by anyone in any circumstance.

Read Viktor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" if you don't believe me.

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