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Can't Talk, I'm Just Too Tired

Can't Talk, I'm Just Too Tired

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Paul Nelson, KSL Newsradio We've all had this happen to us. We come home from work, tired from the day, and we're just not in the mood to talk to anyone. The only problem is, you're spouse is. Apparently, more people are admitting to this problem.

It requires little physical effort, but the stresses of the day may be sucking out the energy people need to talk to their spouse

The Wall Street Journal says nearly 45 percent of high-earning managers polled say they get too tired to talk when they go home. It's happening to plenty of people in Utah, like Taylorsville resident Mike Knapp.

Mike Knapp: "There are times where I do come home pretty beat."

The again, he'll admit, getting him to chat can be tough to begin with.

Mike Knapp: "I'm not much of a talker anyway."

His wife, Kirsten, says she has to take any chance she gets.

Kirsten Knapp: "Anytime he opens up or just starts talking about anything, that's exciting to me."

But, has talking really become so physically taxing that we find ways to avoid it? Think back to the "Seinfeld" episode where Kramer talked Jerry out of looking for a potential wife by reminding him he'd have to chat with her once and a while.

"It's dinner time. Do you know what you do at dinner?" "What?" "You talk about your day."

Salt Lake City marriage counselor Anne Evans-Cazier says she has to assign face-to-face time to the couples she sees.

Anne Evans-Cazier: "One of the most common assignments I give couples is to spend 20 minutes, commit to 20 minutes of uninterrupted talking to each other.

Evans-Cazier says many couples lose the drive to keep in contact with each other, and that's where they have their deepest connection. She says many people worry that a conversation may turn into a fight.

Anne Evans-Cazier: "Often, we start lying to each other. Not directly, but by leaving stuff out."

Evans-Cazier says the best way to overcome any difficulties in talking is to practice, just keep talking until you get better at it. Also, men, this is for you, it will do no good to ask your wife to talk during commercial breaks.

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