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Turning Child in for Murder Tough on Family

Turning Child in for Murder Tough on Family

Posted - Aug. 7, 2004 at 9:36 p.m.



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Kimberly Houk ReportingWe've all watched the pain that both the Soares and Hacking families are going through. The Hackings have been very open about what they believe Mark did. His brothers even turned Mark into police. We spoke with one mother who says she knows exactly what the Hackings are going through right now.

She knows because nearly eight years ago she too turned in her daughter, whom she says was part of a group that brutally killed a mentally challenged man. She says it was the worst day of her life. But, like the Hackings, she knew it was the right thing to do.

It happened in March, the year 1996. Two boys stumble upon a body left out in a field in Bluffdale. Pictures of the murder suspects hit the news, one of whom was Debra's daughter.

Debra, Mother of a Murderer: “And they were saying that they murdered someone, that they were looking for them, going to arrest them, that they would be charged with murder.”

Debra immediately called police with information about where they could find her daughter. It was the worst moment of her life. Nearly eight years later she is still too embarrassed to let us show her face.

She says her daughter and son-in-law were running a meth lab and killed the man after he lost $100,000 worth of the drug.

Debra: “It's appalling to think someone that you love, someone in your family could have actually have done something like this.”

And as the mother of a child who took the life of another, she says she can identify with Mark Hacking's parents and she understands what they're going through.

Debra: “They’re going to have to figure out how their going to deal with their personal guilt. Is it their fault? Did he have too much pressure?”

Questions that go unanswered until, Debra says, the parent comes to the realization that adult children make their own choices, and they are the ones who are ultimately responsible for those choices.

Debra: “It's something that they'll never be able to forget, never be able to explain, but it's something that they're going to have to learn to live with."

And she says eventually with time you learn to let go and moving on becomes more bearable.

Debra: "I think accepting that your child could do this is probably the hardest thing in the world. They’ve only begun a journey that’s going to take them into some awful, awful places.”

Debra says the only thing that gets a family through something like this is a lot of prayer.

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