Ever wish you could re-energize the romance in your marriage? Now, it's as easy as the push of a button. The key is not to touch, talk or tell but to text your way into your husband's heart.
Marital experts warn that if you're in a relationship you need to let the "cool, calm and collected" part of yourself fall by the wayside; it has no place in the development of emotional and sexual intimacy in marriage.
As a culture, we often fail to tell each other how we really feel; we need to be willing to stick our neck out a bit. Be unapologetically romantic and see what happens. What do you possibly have to lose? Thousands of people across the country have caught the latest texting trend have and revived romance. It's all at your fingertips!
1) GRAB ATTENTION
The only rule here is to NOT send an attention-grabber right after you've texted about who's picking up the kids from school. There cannot be a conversation before an attention-grabber; let it stand all alone in order for it to be striking!
Add a smiley face emotion to any grabbers to make it crystal clear to your partner that you're having fun! =0)
Start with a short, incomplete playful phrase to grab his or her attention. At first, your partner may not even know if it's something positive or negative that's about to follow:
"Are you there?"
"I have to tell you something."
"I can't stop thinking…."
"You did it again…."
"Do you have any idea…."
"You are so…."
Now, you can either wait for your partner to say, "What?" or you can forge ahead with the details
"Guess what? I can't stop thinking about ..…..what a good man you are.
"…….and how great you made me feel last night."
" ……how I'm obsessed with you =) ."
"You did it again……you distracted me! "
" ……took my breath away! "
" ……made me fall more in love with you. "
"Did you know…….that you‘re on my mind right now?"
" ……that I can't stop laughing about this morning?"
" ……that you make me tingle in more ways than one?"
"I can't believe…….how lucky I am to share my life with you."
" …….how happy you've made me over all these years."
" ……. how amazing/handsome/intelligent/strong you are."
Secret: Women, unlike us, men love to be objectified ……. so go for it! Tell him how you love his biceps, 6-pack, strong legs, barreled chest, salt-and- pepper hair, etc.
"I can't stop thinking….about how handsome you looked in your suit last night."
" ……how safe I feel in your big, strong arms."
" ……..about hot you looked getting out of the shower this morning.
2) DETAIL ADORATION
The best way to make your partner swoon is to send honest, focused details expressing your appreciation for true, core traits. The more detailed,honest and personal your expression of adoration, the more sincere it will be. (Now, at first your partner may not know how to respond…that's OK, stick to it; the results will be oh so worth it!)
"What I've always loved about you is……how you keep going even when things are tough,"
"I don't say it enough but I love……..your integrity/loyalty/humility/tolerance/strength."
"I admire….how hard you work/how you think/how you take care of our kids/your health/me!"
"I cherish…..how thoughtful you are/how you make me laugh/how you care for our home."
"I treasure…….how dedicated you are. I always know you're there for me and our family." "I love……your sense of adventure….how you'll try anything once and see every challenge as an opportunity. I feel so lucky when we go out into the world knowing something wonderful is going to happen because you're by my side." =)
"I'm blown away by you every day."
"I have to pinch myself sometimes."
"I wish you could see how wonderful you are."
"Thank you for being such a big part of my life."
"I'm thankful/grateful/blessed to be married to you. (Sigh)"
3) SPARK SENSUALITY
Sensual texts are purely physical. Think of your 5 senses…touch, talk, sight, sound and smell. Use ‘em! These are the texts that convey you're thinking of that person, find them attractive, have "plans" for them that night or you just want to flirt and fire-up the chemical reaction.
"You have the most beautiful lips…I love the way they feel when we kiss. When you kiss me, every problem fades away."
"I love being wrapped in your arms…I know nothing can hurt me and I never want to leave."
"I love the way I feel when you touch me; your fingers feel electric on my skin."
"I love how it feels when you run your fingers down my back/through my hair/up my arms."
"I love how your body keeps me warm at night. There is no place I'd rather be than right next to you."
"You have a sexy and deep voice…just hearing it makes me shiver. You're my man."
"You have no idea what your voice does to me. When you whisper in my ear….I'm helpless."
(Remember the more you can translate what you like into what effect it has on you, the more powerful it will be.)
"You have no idea how handsome you are; I'm just sitting here thinking about your stunning blue eyes and how they smile at me when we're close. It makes me want to dive in and get lost forever….you are so sexy to me. How I yearn for you; wish you were here right now. Hurry home!"
This is such a small tip of the iceberg. Mike Fiore writes a great deal about the subject and even appeared on the Rachel Ray show to share some of his titillating texts. Find out more about his "Text Back the Romance" program at texttheromanceback.com.
Dr. Liz is a transplant from Seattle, Washington, although "a few" years ago was a college co-ed cheering for the Utah State Aggies. While USU football hasn't changed through the years, she remains a loyal fan. Dr. Liz, a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, has been in private practice for 12 years specializing in marriage and family relations. She currently serves as a board member on the Utah Commission on Marriage and is a popular speaker at their annual conference.
Her greatest joy in life comes from being with her own family and working with other families along the Wasatch Front at her downtown SLC practice.