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You know how to react when someone shares the happy news they are expecting a baby. But when a woman experiences a miscarriage...often it's hard to know what to say, or how to help.
Blogger Lindsay Redfern recently tackled that very topic on her blog, "The R House." She interviewed three women who had experienced the heartbreak of losing a baby and shared their thoughts and insights in a series of posts called "Understanding and Supporting Pregnancy Loss." She shared what she learned with Studio 5 host Brooke Walker.
Things to avoid:
· "It was for the best."
· "There was probably something wrong with the baby anyway."
· "You can have another baby."
· "You already have another child, can't you just be thankful for that blessing."
· "When are you going to try for another one?"
· Don't rank tragedy
· Don't compare
· Don't judge grief
Things to DO:
· Do remember. It's for this reason I design necklaces for mothers who have experienced pregnancy loss, or infertility. My hope is to provide a way for them to know someone cares, and someone remembers.
· Do use the right terminology: Ask you loved one in a sincere manner what terminology you they would like you to use. Some women prefer the "pregnancy loss" over "infant loss" or "miscarriage"--the medical term for when a pregnancy ends before 20 weeks. Not all those who have experienced pregnancy loss consider themselves "infertile."
· Realize that these couples feel deeply about the baby they were once carrying and many consider the baby part of their family and mourn the loss just as they would the death of a family member.
· Use the appropriate and sensitive phrase: "I am so sorry for your loss."
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