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Walking through the Provo Cemetery, I saw so many graves that weren't visited by flowers and other rememberences. It gave me a great idea. Every year now, I want to take flowers to a random gravesite, in addition to those belonging to my family. At the very least, those that have passed on deserve to be honored. At best, it might bring some good karma from the other side when I'm in a tight spot.
Have you ever noticed, when someone sees a large basket of flowers, Memorial Day items other than flowers, or a very large headstone, the next thing that comes out of that person's mouth is, "Hmmm, well that must have cost a lot." Yes, there is envy. Even of the dead.
How do the dead feel?
Sometimes, there are just such bizarre, ornate headstones and remembrances ... it begs asking: Do the people who receive these really want them? What if a pewter kite isn't quite how someone wanted people to think of him or her? What if someone always gets lilies and doesn't like 'em? What if that person was allergic?
Don't Tread on Me
I've always tried to be considerate when walking through the cemetery. I've been told you're not supposed to step on people. Still, I've found this tough, considering how close some headstones are, east to west, from one another. Sometimes I'll say out loud, "Excuse me." Hopefully they're listening and aren't offended.
It's always interesting learning about your own family's history. I was reminded my several-greats-grandfather, Albert Hastings Bowen, was the first police chief of Provo. Then I was reminded he was murdered. That put a bit of a damper on the conversation.
I would probably suggest eating before going to the cemetery. When you eat afterward, everybody's tired and ornery from plodding around the graveyard.
Other Memorial Day Thoughts ...
- I'm slightly surprised nobody ever tailgates at the cemetery on Memorial Day.
- People do wear a surprising number of wifebeaters to the graveyard.
- Apparently, new-style headstones are basically engraved, whole rocks.
- There just aren't the pithy sayings on headstones that there once were.
- Why have a bench for a headstone?
- What if you're buried next to people you don't like?
- Is it appropriate to approach an attractive woman when she's visiting the grave of a loved one?